Bucharest Experience, Romanian Women

At first sight, Romania doesn’t look particularly interesting. What can you really expect from an Eastern European country – other than gorgeous women and low costs of living? Not much, but it was enough evidence to take a chance.

I’ve had no connection to or prior knowledge of this place. Before actually considering to go there, quite frankly, Romania didn’t even show up on the radar of “things-that-matter-to-me”.

In fact, most of what I’ve known about Romania(ns) was no different to what I see on the streets every day: gypsies, homeless people and various types of criminals.

I found myself wondering, “Do these people actually beg in their home countries as well?” Not to the extend that I noticed.

Anyway, since I’ve already set the goal of going on an adventure trip in 2014, I decided to join a group of guys for a 5 day training program in Bucharest. The mansion we’ve rented was pretty decent for local standards. Best thing about it was the location – less then 5 minutes away from the city center and club scene.

Right when I arrived at the airport and took the bus to the center, I felt like being in Latin America. I’ve never been, but I thought this is what it must look like. A very distinct look – Third World country combined with hot ass climate. Yes, even September was almost unbearable.

Most of the places you get to see as tourist are decent (Western standard), but the rest – holy cow! A run down communist place par excellence. Don’t get me wrong, this is only a run-down place if you’re used to Western standards.

Going there to chase women makes perfect sense – quality- and quantity-wise. Bucharest is leaps ahead of any other major city I’ve been to. Lots of young girls with inflated lips – and boobs. Most of them still look very natural, but I am asking myself how they’re able to afford this, given that most women in Central Europe can’t even afford tuning their body in such a way.

On the second night, I met this super cool dude from Las Vegas. Probably not the most attractive guy, but with a superb carefree attitude. He really exuded indifference, yet still had a positive vibe, and approaching girls together was hell’ a lot of fun. We would follow girls for miles, only to be declined in front of their hotel room.

When he left – to get a hooker – sometime early in the morning, I was still going strong chasing down girls by myself. Most people were going to work again, it must have been 7 am already. One conversation that stood out was with this innocent looking girl at the bus stop. I hadn’t even delivered my line yet and she was already giggling.

We ended up talking for a bit – in hindsight, I should’ve been a bit more physical right there – and I learned that she was a webcam girl just going home from work, thinks black dudes smell, yet still wants to fuck one of them, and, following in the line of many other local girls, also wants to get her titties done.

Costs of living a pretty low – even in a big city such as Bucharest. Groceries are about half the price and taxi fares are even lower. A 5 minute taxi ride doesn’t cost more than $1 – given the driver doesn’t try to rip you off. (Which has happened to me. Basically he pretended to not have change. I was 30+ minutes late on a date already, had no time to argue and ended up paying twice the amount.)

What probably surprised me the most was that nearly all of the girls I spoke to had very good English. I am talking about excellent English – occasionally even better than my own. I can’t really make a case for people outside the 20-30 age bracket, but would think English won’t get you very far there.

Minimalist Investing – How To Use Money To Make Money

I’ve never been a big spender and usually carefully invest my hard earned cash, but it wasn’t until earlier this year that I actually started to educate myself on how to use the money I would save up on a monthly basis – other then just putting it in my saving account.

Clearly, the complex terminology of the financial world had successfully kept me from getting started investing my money.

It wasn’t until I watched a promo video for Tony Robbins book “Money: Master The Game – 7 Simple Steps To Financial Freedom“, that I got excited about learning how to handle money. I just couldn’t wait to get my hands on this book and bought the Kindle version on the first day it was on sale.

I don’t want to go into more detail – this book simply is way to extensive, but basically the idea is to build yourself a money machine. A well-oiled investment instrument that at some point should yield enough dividends to cover all expenses.

The goal is not HAVING to work. It’s not NOT working.

While it will probably take me decades to reach that point, the time to start is now. After doing a bit of research myself, I felt competent enough and made my first lump sum investment.

However, before I actually took that step, I decided how I would allocate my investments. Based on the priorities simplicity and (relative) safety, I came up with the following:

  • 30% Stocks (Currently only S&P500; 0.07% management fee p.a.)
  • 70% Fixed Deposit (10 Year Term @ 1.875% after tax)

I really can’t be bothered with overseeing or balancing my portfolio more than once or twice a year and thanks to this plan, I don’t have to. My broker for all this is the same bank I am using for my savings account. (Which has no annual fee.) The broker account comes with a yearly fee of only 0.10% and ordering the index fund through their website was super easy.

The most important criteria I paid particular attention to was the annual fee of the actual fund. There’s a variety of companies offering S&P 500 index funds with management fees ranging from 0.07 to 0.4%. High fees would greatly diminish every profit!

Lump sum investing is the strategy I will use, simply because the fees involved in ordering an index fund would quickly eat away my earnings.

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Probably the most important lesson learned was that I need to be in the driver’s seat. I need to be educated enough to make investment decisions, or I will pay the price in the long-run. It’s okay to consult other people, but not to let somebody else decide. Valuable learning experience can only occur if I do it myself.

This is such an important lesson – I personally know quite a few people (family and friends) who handed their money to an adviser, got burned and are now shit scared to invest again!

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Here are some of the questions that came up during my research.

What’s an index fund?

Simply put, it’s a fund that mimics the entire stock market. By investing in the S&P 500, you get a micro piece of each of the 500 companies that are part of this fund.

Should I invest in other index funds as well, e.g. in Europe or Asia?

I could, but then I would pay additional fees for every funds. Plus, most of the companies that are listed in the S&P 500 are big international players anyway. It is, in a way, an international index fund.

Is there a difference between placing an order for the same fund at stock exchange A, B or C?

Generally, no. At least not with the broker I am using. Fees are similar and so are the prices.

Minimalism – How I Live An Easy Life

At some point in my life, I started to realize that it’s okay to question the status quo. Actually it’s almost always a good idea to do so. The mental fog cleared and I finally could see that my life has run on autopilot up until now.

  • Why do I work I job that I don’t enjoy?
  • Why do I have a TV and watch videos that make me dumber by the minute?
  • Why am I doing any of the stuff I don’t really care about?

These kinds of questions were a great starting point to completely turn my life around and design it based on my needs as opposed to society’s. A lot of things become obsolete and started to seem useless. I started to flesh out the essential and cut away all the extra fat.

The following quote of the movie “Fight Club” probably sums up my current life philosophy the best.

The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.

It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.

If figured if I know what I want in life, what’s important to me, then what the hell is anything else good for? The logical answer of course is nothing. It’s literally a waste of time, money or any other resource.

Most people would call that radical and I would agree. By societies standards it is quite a drastic approach to living your life. In my case, it’s just an easy way out –  a path to living a life that is simple, easy, stress-free and enjoyable. Time and other resources are carefully invested in particular areas that I am passionate about. This is where all the growth and progress occurs.

It’s important to note that it’s not about going against mainstream per se, but rather getting crystal-clear about what you want and then structuring your entire life only around it.

Here are some examples from my personal life.

  • I don’t own a TV. Sold it years ago. I only watch videos on my computer and these are carefully selected. There’s a couple of people I follow on YouTube in the niches of fitness, business and self development. Watching random bullshit on TV and reading the news are two very destructive habits. It’s fast food for the brain.
  • When I go out, I go to free clubs. Haven’t bought a drink in years. (In fact, I usually get tap water or crushed ice if I’m thirsty. I also drink a large bottle of water before I enter the club.)
  • I don’t own a car. Riding the bicycle to the train station, then public transportation from there on.

This kind of lifestyle isn’t about restricting yourself or being cheap. It’s about seeing the potential value whenever you invest a resource and then making a rational decision.

I admit, this isn’t always perfectly achieved because when strong emotions come into play the entire process can change.

I am sure you get the idea – here’s some examples.

  • Do I really need a new pair of jeans for $150 when I can get them for just $50? How are the additional costs justified?
  • Should I really drink anything but water when I care about my health and looks so much? Wouldn’t it be better to see food (and drinks) as nourishment for the body, not something I use to satisfy my appetite or distract myself?
  • What’s the real value of meeting up with this particular person? Can’t we discuss certain things on the phone and be done in a matter of minutes? Am I using this as an excuse to distract myself because I feel bored or any other uncomfortable emotion?
  • Am I enjoying the time I spend with friends? If not, should I reduce it or get new friends?

If you want to live an extraordinary life, you need to be very selective. You can’t do it all and neither can I or anybody else. Limiting yourself to that which matters the most – in all probability a few basics – will sky-rocket anyone’s quality of live.

Here’s what I care about in my life (in order of importance):

  1. Fitness & Health
  2. Finances & Money
  3. Hot Babes & Friends

That is really it. End of the story. Nothing else really matters to me. Sure, there are some lifestyle-specific things such as travelling the world and writing for my blog that I care about but overall the above mark the foundation.

I am not kidding, literally anything else is irrelevant to me. It’s hard to not drift off and think of something else whenever I encounter a piece of irrelevancy. It’s not that I do this on purpose, but rather that my brain doesn’t see any value in it and doesn’t want to expand energy on useless matters.

With the 3 areas above in mind, it’s really fucking easy to make big and small decisions in a matter of seconds. Even in the face of emotions such as fear (of missing out). Whenever I encounter such a sensation, I just ask myself if this is even something that’s important to me. Usually that’s not the case and I immediately turn my back to it.

Without knowing what you value, you’ll easily act irrational and often times on autopilot. I have made plenty of wrong decisions in the past and spent money where it wasn’t necessary. This is part of a development process that never ends.

This approach or life philosophy can be applied that almost anything.

  • Think you need to master a lot of sex positions? Just pick 2-3 you like and focus on them. That will be good enough for the rest of your life.
  • Wondering what you should eat next week? Make a list of 5-6 meals that you enjoy and do a rotation. (The more extreme version I follow contains only 1 meal with 2 different side dishes.)
  • Don’t like working out for hours on end, yet want to enjoy a fit body? Do a full body workout with compound exercises. 5×5 – and you’re finished in less than half an hour. Three times a week and you’re prepared for the summer.

This isn’t the end of all. As I experience life, I will continually set stronger boundaries and strip away things that don’t provide value.

Why Not Just Get A Hooker?

This is going to be a highly controversial one. Radical opinion, so to speak.

Have you ever thought about the difference between being with a regular woman versus a working girl (aka hooker)?

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This is something I absolutely love: ponder about opposing opinions, whether they come from friends or I simply read them online.

For myself, what I am really getting from meeting regular girls is Thrill & Validation.

Thrill in that sense that you’re never sure if you’ll get her, how it will end. Oh, and validation, well … that the feeling, that little ego boost you get after sleeping with a new girl. Here’s what I realized though … I actually feel bad after sleeping with normal girls – at least sometimes.

Really, I am thinking to myself, “All that effort, just for that little time in bed? Man, what a waste of time!

Recently, I got intimate with a lovely girl here in Bangkok. It was super easy, super fast. All in all, I’d say less than 30 minutes from meeting to landing in bed.

She was a massage girl & told me that beforehand. No, I didn’t have to pay … but even worse: she slept over. The experience was nice, she was the hottest girl so far & before I would’ve never thought I’d end up in bed with her.

… but you know what, I also had opposing thoughts. Like, I could’ve just gone to her massage parlor, paid 1,500 Baht & gone about my business afterwards. 

Don’t get me wrong, of course it’s only natural & healthy to meet regular women, but at some point it’s worth considering a change.

For example, I know that meeting women always means time & effort – even if all goes as quickly as in the example I mentioned. And the only reason I can justify putting in that time & effort is if I keep her around for longer. That brings me to my point: ONS & quick hook ups are absolutely pointless.

… and for exactly those, hookers are the perfect alternative.

The most common objection I hear from people is saying, “It just doesn’t feel real when you pay for it“. That’s funny, I’ve only ever heard that from guys that have never tried hookers and to expand on that – it depends on what you’re paying for.

Of course, if you’re paying for a 10 minute BJ on a dirty street around the corner, it won’t feel “real” … but a regular encounter (e.g. pulling a freelancer, going to a massage place) will just be if not more fun than a regular girl.

There’s even a service becoming increasingly popular called “girlfriend sex” or GFS for short. Hey, what more could you ask for?

While you’re in the midst of passion & fucking her, you are not suddenly going to pause, think and tell yourself, “I really shouldn’t be enjoying this because I paid for it and it should feel good!” … of course not, you won’t even notice.

The first time I tried this kind of service, I paid $75 for half an hour. Quite a good deal in my opinion.

When Is Paying For Sex Worth The Investment?

Horniness Level 1000+. If there’s no girls you can call up or simply want to experience something else – then hookers are they way to go. The process is time-efficient and as simple as ordering Chinese food. You just go there, pick a girl, and bang her.

Variety / Fetish. Blonde, African American, Latina, Asian, Pornstar, MILF. The entire spectrum. Whatever you are looking for, I can guarantee you it’s available in the world of pay-sex. Depending on where you live, it can be next to impossible to have sex with some type of girl simply because of availability. Some of the hookers I’ve fucked were really hot – to the point where I haven’t ever seen anything comparable in my daily life.

Real World Experience. In my case, this was the main reason I went there the first couple of times. I haven’t had sex, but also saw no point in waiting any longer. The experiences were invaluable for later on when I had sex with actual girls.

It made the process so much more enjoyable and more importantly it helped me feel comfortable in these kinds of situations. I have to admit though that before I had my first hooker, I also struggled with the idea of doing it. Does it mean I am a loser if I pay for sex? Eventually I got over my ego and just did it. Nowadays, I totally enjoy it.

Porn / Masturbation Alternative. I am sure some guys will lynch me for this advice arguing that it will take away all the motivation. Here’s my take on it: I am not a fan of watching porn, nor masturbation.

Both can be – depending on your current life situation – very destructive habits. On the other hand, there’s no denying that we all have the need for intimacy and sex. So, why not get the real deal – actual human contact – instead of jerking off to online porn? To me it sounds like a way better alternative.

What’s The Point Of Pursuing Girls?

The main benefit of meeting, dating and sleeping with girls is that you’re saving a whole lot of money along the way. No, just kidding of course. You could actually argue that the opposite is the case if you convert the time it takes on average to sleep with a girl to money.

When you can have sex so easily, why would anyone still go through the struggle and hit up babes in clubs or on the streets? Two very powerful benefits: Meaning & Emotion.

The entire process of dating can be a challenge where you are dealing with all sorts of obstacles, emotional up’s and down’s and you’ll never know for sure if you’re going to seal the deal. That makes it exciting and a great catalyst for personal growth. You never know which girl you are going to get next.

When you’ve finally slept with a girl, you’re starting to interpret the situation. What does this mean? It probably means I am an attractive guy, I am desired, and so on. All that makes you feel good about yourself. Your self image goes up one point. No hooker in the world can provide this – it’s only through your own effort that you’ll reap these kinds of rewards.

Review – “The Art Of Thinking Clearly”

Yesterday, I was lying in bed listening to an interesting podcast about self development, when the guest was asked to list his top 3 books. Among them was “The Art Of Thinking Clearly“.

Because “thinking” is so relevant in daily life, I had to look up the title immediately and started reading the book only minutes later.

Sure, I found out that a lot of the thinking errors were not relevant to my current life situation so I skipped a lot of chapters, but there were some nuggets of wisdom in there. After all, it was well worth reading through and investing 2 hours of my time. What I was able to take out of it was the following.

The chapter that I liked the most was “Never Pay Your Lawyer by the Hour: Incentive Super-Response Tendency” – simply because I wasn’t fully aware of it and more importantly it is relevant in a variety of situations.

To control a rat infestation, French colonial rulers in Hanoi in the nineteenth century passed a law: For every dead rat handed in to the authorities, the catcher would receive a reward. Yes, many rats were destroyed, but many were also bred specially for this purpose.

This is something I wasn’t fully aware of to be honest. Sure, with salespeople it’s pretty obvious what their agenda is, but in other areas I never really gave it a second thought.

Here I am quoting another passage from the book to clearly highlight what I mean.

Imagine for a moment that, instead of demanding enemies’ riches, warriors and soldiers are charged by the hour. We would effectively be incentivizing them to take as long as possible, right? So why do we do just this with lawyers, architects, consultants, accountants, and driving instructors? My advice: Forget hourly rates and always negotiate a fixed price in advance.

Another important realization was that it’s perhaps as important to know what you don’t want as it is to know your goals. Defining that which you are not after can make life a whole lot easier and save a ton of time. Something I will put into practice in various areas of my life.

Adopt a life strategy similar to a corporate strategy: Write down what not to pursue in your life. In other words, make calculated decisions to disregard certain possibilities and when an option shows up, test it against your not-to-pursue list. It will not only keep you from trouble but also save you lots of thinking time… Most doors are not worth entering, even when the handle seems to turn so effortlessly.

The final thing I want to mention is not really something that I’ve learned, but rather a chapter that reinforced my current behaviour. I sold my TV years ago, haven’t watched news since then, don’t listen to the radio or read the newspaper. In hindsight probably a very smart choice – if you believe what the author of the book – Rolf Dobelli – has to say about this topic.

 … two centuries ago, we invented a toxic form of knowledge called ‘news’. News is to the mind what sugar is to the body: appetizing, easy to digest – and highly destructive in the long run.

Overall, I am happy that I picked up this book. I will probably read it again in the future when some of the other chapters have more relevancy.