At some point in my life, I started to realize that it’s okay to question the status quo. Actually it’s almost always a good idea to do so. The mental fog cleared and I finally could see that my life has run on autopilot up until now.
- Why do I work I job that I don’t enjoy?
- Why do I have a TV and watch videos that make me dumber by the minute?
- Why am I doing any of the stuff I don’t really care about?
These kinds of questions were a great starting point to completely turn my life around and design it based on my needs as opposed to society’s. A lot of things become obsolete and started to seem useless. I started to flesh out the essential and cut away all the extra fat.
The following quote of the movie “Fight Club” probably sums up my current life philosophy the best.
The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.
It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.
If figured if I know what I want in life, what’s important to me, then what the hell is anything else good for? The logical answer of course is nothing. It’s literally a waste of time, money or any other resource.
Most people would call that radical and I would agree. By societies standards it is quite a drastic approach to living your life. In my case, it’s just an easy way out – a path to living a life that is simple, easy, stress-free and enjoyable. Time and other resources are carefully invested in particular areas that I am passionate about. This is where all the growth and progress occurs.
It’s important to note that it’s not about going against mainstream per se, but rather getting crystal-clear about what you want and then structuring your entire life only around it.
Here are some examples from my personal life.
- I don’t own a TV. Sold it years ago. I only watch videos on my computer and these are carefully selected. There’s a couple of people I follow on YouTube in the niches of fitness, business and self development. Watching random bullshit on TV and reading the news are two very destructive habits. It’s fast food for the brain.
- When I go out, I go to free clubs. Haven’t bought a drink in years. (In fact, I usually get tap water or crushed ice if I’m thirsty. I also drink a large bottle of water before I enter the club.)
- I don’t own a car. Riding the bicycle to the train station, then public transportation from there on.
This kind of lifestyle isn’t about restricting yourself or being cheap. It’s about seeing the potential value whenever you invest a resource and then making a rational decision.
I admit, this isn’t always perfectly achieved because when strong emotions come into play the entire process can change.
I am sure you get the idea – here’s some examples.
- Do I really need a new pair of jeans for $150 when I can get them for just $50? How are the additional costs justified?
- Should I really drink anything but water when I care about my health and looks so much? Wouldn’t it be better to see food (and drinks) as nourishment for the body, not something I use to satisfy my appetite or distract myself?
- What’s the real value of meeting up with this particular person? Can’t we discuss certain things on the phone and be done in a matter of minutes? Am I using this as an excuse to distract myself because I feel bored or any other uncomfortable emotion?
- Am I enjoying the time I spend with friends? If not, should I reduce it or get new friends?
If you want to live an extraordinary life, you need to be very selective. You can’t do it all and neither can I or anybody else. Limiting yourself to that which matters the most – in all probability a few basics – will sky-rocket anyone’s quality of live.
Here’s what I care about in my life (in order of importance):
- Fitness & Health
- Finances & Money
- Hot Babes & Friends
That is really it. End of the story. Nothing else really matters to me. Sure, there are some lifestyle-specific things such as travelling the world and writing for my blog that I care about but overall the above mark the foundation.
I am not kidding, literally anything else is irrelevant to me. It’s hard to not drift off and think of something else whenever I encounter a piece of irrelevancy. It’s not that I do this on purpose, but rather that my brain doesn’t see any value in it and doesn’t want to expand energy on useless matters.
With the 3 areas above in mind, it’s really fucking easy to make big and small decisions in a matter of seconds. Even in the face of emotions such as fear (of missing out). Whenever I encounter such a sensation, I just ask myself if this is even something that’s important to me. Usually that’s not the case and I immediately turn my back to it.
Without knowing what you value, you’ll easily act irrational and often times on autopilot. I have made plenty of wrong decisions in the past and spent money where it wasn’t necessary. This is part of a development process that never ends.
This approach or life philosophy can be applied that almost anything.
- Think you need to master a lot of sex positions? Just pick 2-3 you like and focus on them. That will be good enough for the rest of your life.
- Wondering what you should eat next week? Make a list of 5-6 meals that you enjoy and do a rotation. (The more extreme version I follow contains only 1 meal with 2 different side dishes.)
- Don’t like working out for hours on end, yet want to enjoy a fit body? Do a full body workout with compound exercises. 5×5 – and you’re finished in less than half an hour. Three times a week and you’re prepared for the summer.
This isn’t the end of all. As I experience life, I will continually set stronger boundaries and strip away things that don’t provide value.