Before I knew it, the damage had already been done.
A sort of digital cancer, I wish I’d never discovered it.
Preaching morals is not my thing and I won’t make an exception here. Porn isn’t wrong per se, nor do I recommend you quitting it. This is simply a documentation of experiences and the severe side effect which I’ve overlooked for too long.
I am far from being an addict or heavy user – weeks could go by without even thinking about jerking off. Still, looking back to pre-porn times, I’ve noticed some alarming changes.
The Creeping Desensitization
Years before ever browsing the web, I could look at a girls’ name on my phone and be aroused enough to masturbate to. Yes, I would simply see her contact info, or a cute TV host and come.
Arousal was built slowly, I would get goosebumps all over my body, and when I came, it wasn’t just an ejaculation, but one powerful full body orgasm. It felt amazing – my entire body freezing for a couple of seconds. To say the least, I was in touch with my body.
Unfortunately, things have changed when porn came into play. Nowadays, I need to bring in the big guns to get feel anything at all. I am talking about hardcore porn, and not just one clip, but an assortment. The longer and the more often I watch, the more extreme it gets.
Whenever I abstain for a couple of days, the moment I flip on porn again, I get aroused quicker and easier. Seeing a cute dressed girl is often enough to get a full erection. Say porn is harmless – I know it isn’t and desensitization is fucking real.
The scary part is that these side effects are fairly normal, but it can even get extremer. There’s guys who’s porn usage gets totally out of hand and to the point where they watch a fetish that they weren’t even interested in initially. Gay porn, shemales and a host of other things that I don’t even want to mention.
If that doesn’t scare you, I doubt that anything will. One guy even ended up visiting transsexual hookers, but lost his interest after quitting porn.
Real Life Porn
Let’s be realistic, there are no real alternatives. People wouldn’t watch porn if it weren’t for the easy access, unlimited variety and comfort. Online porn is unbeatable. Looking for an alternative, I was always willing to make a trade-off.
Ditching variety for the realness, or intensity of the experience. Then, there are great alternatives available.
The most obvious one being masturbation without porn. There’s a ton of ways to do it – and make it more enjoyable. From thinking about I girl I wanted to fuck, to practicing full body orgasms and eventually using the Fleshlight, I’ve experimented with many of these alternatives.
Once you get a taste of it, you won’t revert to digital pussy. Getting in touch with yourself and experiencing more intense orgasms is something porn can’t easily compete with.
Nothing beats real pussy though. The real deal will always be the best option, and if you can’t get laid otherwise, this means banging a hooker. The healthiest way to experience porn in real life. Anything you can think of.
Depending on your location, this might not be an option. If that’s the case, you are seriously in the wrong place. Banging hookers is something I’ve have always recommended and wrote about in in-depth.
Ultimately, I’ve noticed that horniness is not the catalyst for porn usage. It’s not obvious, but boredom is often the real cause. I am looking for a way to distract myself, the same way I use food. There rarely is a real physical need. In conclusion, another way to get off porn is to become aware of how and when you use it.
Horny? Fair enough, the alternatives above are the way to go. In any other case, solving the issue directly or finding alternatives – e.g. to deal with boredom – is a better solution.