3 Things I HATE About Bangkok, Thailand

Considering all the places I’ve been to, Thailand resembles paradise the most. Sunshine year round, most things are cheap, oh, and plenty of hotties on the streets, in malls and hundreds of nightclubs and bars.

Pretty much all you can ask for, and it doesn’t surprise that people come back, year after year. Nonetheless, there’s a couple of things REALLY bothering me, something I need to address to maintain objectivity.

1. Dirty Streets

Any normal person would jump back shocked when a rat suddenly runs across the way. Sadly, there’s so many of them that I’ve gotten accustomed, it became the norm. The nasty thing is that you see them near the food stands on the street, right next to a family of cockroaches running around hysterically.

Besides safety, this is the main reason I only get fresh fruits and coconuts off the streets. These are inside plastic containers and refrigerated in fresh ice.

Hygiene-standards are superb in most bathrooms, but they’re beyond words on the streets. Besides, most places look run down. Not more than in London, or most large cities, but certainly not up to what I’m used to from Central Europe.

The malls look extravagant, but many places outside look more like a slum, with water dropping from the ceiling and dirt everywhere. Again, I am comparing to the super-clean standards I am used to – Bangkok is not THAT horrible!

2. Pushy Salespeople

Anyone coming to Bangkok will quickly be annoyed by people approaching you from all sides, everywhere, at any time. I’ve learned to cope with it and rarely walk on the sidewalk if there are massage ladies or – at night – ladyboys in sight.

If there’s no other option, I carry something like a plastic bag (pretending I was shopping), look at my phone or play with my camera in order to look distracted.

Being nice is one thing, but good luck keeping up that facade when you get aggressively approached 20 times in a matter of minutes.

Try walking on the streets instead and now you’re dealing with an endless stream of taxi drivers stopping or honking. Everyone wants to take you for a ride and make a couple of bucks, perhaps even more if they are able to convince you to go to a places where they earn commission.

Ignorance or a quick gesture is often enough to be left alone. Having taxis always nearby is great when you need them, otherwise it’s more annoying.

3. Accommodation

Sure, you get what you pay for and I probably could’ve gotten an extravagant place also. Nevertheless, I’ve switched places 3 times during my stay and they were 16, 24 and 26€ per night. Cheaper than any hotel, but not super cheap either.

Granted, you can still save a lot of money by booking an entire month, but I am still surprised that the quality-price ratio isn’t higher. Also, I have to get used to the Thai living standard, which is essentially people living in one giant room that resembles a hotel room, doesn’t have a kitchen and occasionally lacks air conditioning.

The conclusive rant is reserved for just that, air conditioning. It really sucks, you easily get a cold and the fan is too loud. Once you turn it off, you’re happy for half an hour until you start breaking a sweat.

I know it’s weird saying that when one of the benefits of coming to Thailand is the climate. The heat is fine at night when going out, but during daytime it’s unbearable, especially the humidity.

Updating Life – Turning Frustration Into Progress

Recent experiences, insights and beliefs have caused me to freshly evaluate my life choices and behaviors. I guess there comes a time when a series of patches doesn’t cut it anymore, when you need to install a full-blown update. That time has finally come.

Cherishing Time

It’s self-evident that time is one of the most precious and valuable resources I have, yet that still doesn’t stop me from occasionally wasting it like there’s no tomorrow. Not just on activities that don’t add any real value to my life, but also people that are a negative influence and drain to my well-being.

Outsourcing On Steroids

I am not the one eager to spend money on virtual assistants and outsourcing work simply because I don’t like to spend money. However, this behavior – spending time and energy on menial and unimportant tasks – is a roadblock to success, scaling up business ventures and becoming a true entrepreneur.

The first lesson I’ve learned from my business coach was to be confident enough to value my own over anyone else’s time and see every minute as important. That means conditioning myself to outsource and delegate whenever possible.

In the past, I would only outsource design tasks and content creation but stick to doing all the marketing myself. Then, I learned that this coach who is also a very successful publisher doesn’t even read or open the books he puts out – I was blown away!

He literally outsources to quality people and then let’s the market dictate whether the product (book) is good enough, needs to be expanded or revised.

Pulling Weeds

It sounds harsh, but by weeds I mean people. In some cases friends that I’ve spent significant amounts of time with, but don’t add value to my life and neither make me feel good in their company. This applies to both men and women and comes down to cutting out certain people – unless they are willing to change – and finding better alternatives in moments I feel bored or lonely.

This is not easy, especially knowing that most people who are negative are really only scared. One friend comes to mind in particular, I’ve tried to help and guide him in a more positive direction but now it’s time to put myself first and show that I value my own time.

In the context of social interactions, I also need to work on being even MORE forthcoming and straight-forward. I am good at this already, but still occasionally think about saying something or not, go back and forth and waste huge amounts of energy and focus where it’s not needed.

Basically facing rejection in order to save time and applying the same mindset that I used to be bold with women – risking everything and having the certainty that in the end, one thing won’t be waste – TIME!

A Calm, Focused Mind

Being an employe was the worst and I hated every minute of it – except the day I quit. There was one positive thing though – the comfort of steady payment. I never had to worry or even bother with the future, all that was necessary was staying in zombie-mode and collecting monthly paychecks until I retire.

Now I can fully understand why most people don’t even consider escaping that system – it’s the comfort.

Ever since quitting my job, I’ve had to face a series of new issues. Frustration, overwhelm and uncertainty about the future. And all of that despite still having a secure income at the moment.

However, this is something I must not run away from but rather adapt to. It’s one of the challenges that comes with the new-found opportunities that are substantial income and absolute freedom.

At the forefront of issues are lack of focus and distraction. Blaming technology, the Internet or lack of motivation wouldn’t be fair – after all, it’s my own inability to focus that’s at the root of all current problems.

The time-tested tool of meditation will be my weapon of choice. I’ve done it extensively in the past but kind of gave up on it over time. It’s important to realize that meditation is not a waste of time – quite the contrary – it’s one of the highest leverage activities I can engage in. Focus, focus, focus!

Thai Women – How They Are Different: Dating, Money, Hygiene

Is the stereotype true? Are Thai women only looking for $$$? Are they all hookers and prostitutes?

This is the aftermath of 3 weeks in Bangkok (my first trip a few years back) – still reflecting on the experiences made and yearning to be in bed with some of these hotties again. Now that I’ve had my fair share of encounters with Thai girls, I’ve gained an understanding of what they’re like and how they differ from their American counterparts.

No doubt, not all Thai women are like that. After all, I’ve mainly met girls from online dating – so-called “good girls”.

Are Thai Women Really Easier?

Without a doubt the question I get asked the most. People want to know if it’s worth going to Thailand if they have trouble getting laid enough at home. Initially, I said yes. Of course it’s easier – everyone knows this!

Reflecting on this question, I had to alter my question to an abundantly clear NO. This is a misconception many people have because it’s easier to get laid overall. Percentage-wise more women are interested in meeting you, but getting that one interested girl into bed is neither easier, nor more difficult than in a Western country.

Most women still have their objections and insecurities á la, “Can’t sleep with someone before feeling comfortable. Won’t have sex with you.” and this doesn’t change just because it’s Thailand.

Cleanliness/Hygiene

The super thing about Thai toilets is that every one of them is equipped with a health faucet –  a hand-held triggered nozzle – used to clean your ass and genitals. It’s as if you had just taken a shower and toilet paper is a thing of the past. Since coming back from Thailand a couple of weeks ago, I haven’t even thought about using toilet paper again.

Anyway, Thai girls used this to freshen up and some of them even cleaned their feet after entering my condo. I like this sort of hygiene and it’s certainly not what I am used to from women at home.

Money Greedy Whores

The picture I’ve had in my mind – girls just wanting to find another white guy paying for their shit! Thai women just want your money, it’s their only incentive for meeting you. You, their personal, walking ATM.

Fortunately, it didn’t take long for this misconception to clear. In fact, reality was quite different and it turned out that most girls were more than happy to pay for my food and meet a cute foreign guy at all.

These are the girls you find during the day, in malls and even online – the regular girl that would probably even feel bad taking money because she doesn’t want to see herself as a bar girl or hooker. I know, this was surprising to me as well.

Funny Sidenote: The first girl I’ve banged was actually so friendly, positive and open-minded, I thought she was a hooker and wanted money after sex. Turn’s out she wasn’t and didn’t even take money for the taxi.

Where Do Gold Diggers Lurk?

This is pretty obvious – in nightclubs or anywhere in the red light districts. Women that are out for money know that this is where it’s at as most guys hunt for pussy at these locations. When you’re out spending money on drinks, perhaps even making out with the girl, paying her to come home is only a baby step away.

During daylight, I can’t see any of this happening.

Common Insecurities

A typical question was whether I am lonely, have nobody else to hang out with, or really want to hang out with her. This sounds cocky, but some girls thought so highly of me that they probably couldn’t grasp that they were the first choice.

To be fair, this only happened a couple of times – 2-3 girls at best.

Yet another funny pattern I’ve noticed: I take a shower, dress up and meet the girl for the date. Shortly thereafter, we arrive at my place, she suggests I take a shower and then go to sleep.

Needless to say, I ignored this ridiculous request and ended up taking a shower together with the girl.

I’d rather kick the girl out of my condo before thinking about going to sleep alone.

Finally, this is something I am still note sure about. Most girls didn’t text me after sex, but were eager to come again when asked. Based on my experience, I think it’s safe to say they assumed I was busy and didn’t want to interrupt.

How I Lose Fat, Build Muscle – The Exact Plan

A year ago to the day, I took part in one of the best coaching experiences I’ve ever had. It wasn’t that I lacked knowledge before, but more so the beliefs and patience needed to make body transformation a reality.

Thanks to the help of an online diet coach, I started losing weight at steady rates and ended up in the best shape of my life when the coaching finally ended after 12 weeks. What I’ve learned in the process was invaluable and I am still using all of it to this day. It’s not the information, but the first-hand experiences that made the difference.

Diet Myths Debunked

Right away, I was surprised how easy following a strict diet actually was. There was no carrying around plastic containers and eating every couple of hours. Quite the opposite – 2 meals per day, the first for lunch at 1pm and eventually dinner at 8pm. I really doesn’t get any easier, that was the entire meal plan.

For simplicity, I decided to eat the same meals daily and only switch the vegetables and salads every week.

Meal timing was based on IF – Intermittent Fasting – which in my case meant fasting for 16 hours (most of it throughout the night), and consuming 2 meals during the remaining 8 hours of the day. Consistent eating times are not super important but help hormones and your body adjust to the fat loss.

In addition, I consumed very few carbohydrates (less than 70g) on rest days and significantly more (~245g) on workout days. This strategy is known as carb cycling and an excellent way of maximizing fat loss and “confusing” the body – as opposed to eating the same macros day in, day out.

Asides from diet, another key component for successful weight loss is low stress and consistent sleep habit. Keeping cortisol levels low and getting quality sleep each night is more important than I initially thought. The sleep schedule I stuck to was 10pm – 7am.

Finally, a quick word about weight lifting. Surprisingly, there isn’t more to it than compound exercises and working out 3x per week for roughly 40 minutes. Workout sessions are rotated – A, B, A, B and mainly serve the purpose of retaining muscle mass – they’re not for losing weight.

That’s because when it comes to getting shredded 90% of the battle is won in the kitchen.

The Food Selection

Workout Day

  • 500g Wild Salmon
  • 300g Basmati Rice
  • 90g Organic Peanut Butter (100% Peanuts)

Nutritional Value:

2139 Calories, 175g Protein, 240g Carbs, 53g Fat

Meal Timing: 20% Pre-Workout, 80% Post-Workout

Rest Day

  • 500g Wild Salmon
  • 1000g Frozen Vegetable Mix
  • 100g Organic Peanut Butter (100% Peanuts)

Nutritional Value:

1477 Calories, 176 Protein, 66g Carbs, 57 Fat

Meal Timing: 50% @ 1pm, 50% at 8pm

Adding supplements is not a must, but I like to do what I can to maximize health and stick to well researched and proven solutions. Combined, all of these cost less than $15 per month.

  • 1x Fish Oil (360mg EPA, 240mg DHA, 710mg Omega 3)
  • 1x Vitamin D3 (5,000 IU)
  • 1x Vitamin Complex (1000 mcg Vitamin K1, 1000 mcg Vitamin K2 MK-4, 200 mcg Vitamin K2 MK-7)
  • 5g Creatine Monohydrate

There’s more supplements and healths foods that I consider healthy, but many of them don’t serve a purpose at the moment. Maca powder and horny goat wheat are great for boosting libido and increasing sex drive, but unless you have the time and focus to bang lots of girls, they are a waste of money.

When I start traveling again and spend time in SE Asia, I might start using these supplements a month ahead of time.

How To Gain Muscle

Gaining muscle and losing weight – there’s not a big difference. The entire framework and meal structure (see above) stays the same, a caloric surplus is maintained by adding more carbs on workout days. That’s the entire system for adding lean muscle mass while keeping body fat as low as possible.

Another strategy is to just eat whatever comes to mind and make sure you are in a caloric surplus, but that’s not what I am aiming for. I can’t be bothered carrying around a fat belly – even if it’s just during the winter months.

A Healthy Future

Recent health issues have caused me to reflect on my diet habits and re-commit to putting my health first right after the fat loss phase is finished. I consider my current diet to be healthy, but there’s always a next level and that’s what I am thriving for. In the future, that will mean cutting out all animal products and focusing on mostly raw, organic foods.

The diet won’t be perfect in terms of macro partitioning, but it will be sustainable in the long-run, super healthy and still work great for gaining muscle. The best plan is worth nothing if it can’t be sustained over long periods.

The goal is to get back to the kind of consistency I’ve had during my coaching, where sticking to the plan was easy and I actually told my coach that “I could continue this diet indefinitely”. Yes, that’s how easy it was.