Dating, getting laid and sometimes even just having sex – it can take a lot of time and is often quite distracting. Deciding to quit the system, not playing the game at all isn’t an option either. Jerking off to porn satisfies immediate, physical urges, but the long-term emotional needs are neglected.
Improving sex life starts where all good things stem from – a vision. Getting clear on what I want will make it easier hitting the target consistently and more importantly help eliminating time wasting activities. I’ve gotten so caught up in trying to get laid and fixing certain issues that I’ve never spent time thinking about my ideal sex life.
Sometimes sex is great, other times it’s just okay. Sometimes just having fucked a girl makes you feel like a champion, then there are those experiences that aren’t emotionally rewarding at all.
There will always be some sort of validation and good feeling come from continuing collecting new notches on your belt. Yet, at the same time, it can also be a trip, a chase for the next high that never ends. There needs to be balance.
I realize that’s not something I can force or what sex will always look like, but more of an ideal that I aiming for.
Knowing what the perfect scenario looks like is the best way of gauging whether or not I am successful with women, it’s the only way of escaping comparison with others or trying to achieve a higher lay count just to feel better. Because that’s a surefire way to feel miserable in the long-run. There’s always someone outperforming you!
- What is sex like?
Definitely played slowly where both parties feel comfortable. I am happy to be with the girl and have no second thoughts about wanting to be with another (hotter) girl right now. We’re both relaxed, there’s a positive and fun vibe, perhaps we’re even teasing each other.
There’s no rush and the arousal builds up slowly. Approaching ejaculation I don’t just bang like a maniac, but am circulating the sexual energy throughout my body and finish off with a whole body orgasm.
[As a teenager, I used to experience these full body orgasms every single time when masturbating. It was literally my entire body shaking, almost like going into seizure for a couple of seconds. Perhaps ever since discovering porn, sensitivity has gone downhill. Nonetheless, this is probably the most important thing to work on in order to improve the sexual experience.]
- What are the women like?
Looking at women this way doesn’t make them a commodity, I am simply writing down certain preferences based on which I select women already anyway. No surprises here, slim body, super-flat stomach and a firm, tiny ass are the basic requirements. Nice pair of tits? That’s a great bonus.
Personality-wise, I am very much into girlish, feminine girls. You know, the ones that giggle a lot, are perhaps a bit shy and appear innocent. However, overall, this can’t be measured, or categorized. All that really matters is that I feel good in her presence, whether she’s a highly successful model, or girl working at the local supermarket.
- How many women do I sleep with?
That’s a tough one to answer. I am still at a stage in my life where I want to experience a whole variety of girls and the minimum for that is probably 20 per year. That’s more based on where I am currently located and the “opportunities” – variety and hotness of girls – in proximity.
- How often do I have sex?
If it were very low effort, or hookers were free, probably daily. Realistically though, the physical need for sex isn’t much of an issue at all. A couple of times per week is fine when I’m traveling, at home I have no problem not getting laid at all.