Over the last few weeks, questions regarding online dating (some specifically related to ThaiFriendly) have pilled up – I’ll address those today instead of answering to each person individually.
The #1 question I get asked when people hear/read about my ThaiFriendly streak is,
How do you get them to go to your place right away? It usually takes me x dates.
There are 2 essential things for this to work. First, the place where you meet up with the girl should be somewhat close to where you live. I’ve done it where it took us 20-30 minutes to get to my condo, but it’s easier if you live close-by.
The second thing (probably more important) is that you stay in a condo, not in a hotel. Reception at the hotel can cockblock you – and even if that’s not the case, the girl might feel like a slut going up to a hotel room with a guy she just met. Plus, she will have to check in with her ID.
That’s why I highly recommend you rent a condo if pulling (regular) girls is your number one objective. None of the places I’ve stayed at had a reception (or it wasn’t manned in the evening), plus, the girls seemed to care less about it than going into a hotel room.
When bringing a girl to a hotel room, it’s also easy for the girl to feel judged in the sense that she has to check in with reception (just like a hooker) – and that other people might actually think she is one.
Best Condos for Pulling Girls
That’s why I’ve added specific condo recommendations to my Bangkok Guide. Those are places where you can stay short- and long-term. By short time, I mean even daily and weekly is possible and they are all perfect for pulling girls. Nobody cares about you bringing girls – no reception and most of the time, I didn’t even see other people in the hallway either. (Link for my Bangkok Guide is in the description.)
Every piece of strategy I use up until actually meeting the girl, I’ve covered in my ThaiFriendly Guide. Whenever I actually met up with a girl, I always suggested to go to my place, or else I’d cancel the date altogether.
Needless to say, no girl objected going to my place.
However, and this is critical – I’ve never actually said “my place“, but rather “a place … where we can sit“. And then we simply went to my room.
That’s literally it. There’s nothing more to it.
If you stay at a condo where you have a pool or similar, it’s even easier as you can now describe that – in case going straight to your room is too much for you.
If bringing her to your condo (or even to the pool area) are is too much for you, what else could you resort to? The second best option would be to do something you would do anyway (e.g. going somewhere) and simply inviting the girl to come along. Regardless of whether you get laid, you are not wasting time. If spending time with the girl is something you enjoy & it’s not about getting laid quickly, then this is the best option.
I have conducted my dates the way I have described for two reasons.
- #1 – By saying “a place” and not disclosing that it’s your place, you are taking off a lot of pressure. The girl might be meeting up with you because she is horny (or at least is open to the idea of sex), but saying that you’ll go to your place or making it blatantly obvious (e.g. hotel room) would put a lot of pressure on her. She doesn’t want to feel like a slut.
- #2 – By bringing her straight to your place, you are saving time, but more importantly, you are kinda putting her in a position where she has to decide if she wants to bang or not. If not, those girls will usually “have to go home” once you make your move. Any girl that doesn’t leave once you start touching her, you will end up banging 99% chance.
Other Common Questions
How about other online dating sites in Thailand? Have you ever tried Tinder?
I have tried DateInAsia but didn’t like it as the free version would even allow you to read messages, that’s why I decided to stick with ThaiFriendly. Tinder I have not tried yet – I don’t even have a Facebook account, so no plans of giving Tinder a try.
ThaiFriendly, you can automate a lot of steps using macros. Steps such as liking a profile, sending messages. The current limit is 8 messages per minute, anything beyond that might trigger account suspension.
I just want to date different girls and have sex, but most profiles I visit say “looking for serious relationship”. What should I do?
Next time you read this, imagine it says, “Looking for serious fun.” Seriously. The profile text means absolutely nothing. Many of the girls I met had the same thing written in their profile and often times it’s just pretense in the sense that they don’t want to appear too loose. (Especially not to the guy they are about to meet).
Would you recommend staying at different places if you pull a lot of girls? Is jealousy ever an issue?
I would, to be honest. A few girls is fine, but once you get in the double digit territory, it would perhaps makes sense – but all depends on how long you stay as well. If you leave after a short period of time … it might be fine.
What I mean is, I wouldn’t feel comfortable bringing 50 girls to my place … and staying there for several months. They all know exactly where I live & some might get into mischief.
I am not saying this is going to happen, but I DO believe a girl could get into your room if she really wanted to & perhaps security/reception guy saw her already with you a few days ago. She goes in, says she’s your GF/wife, got home early and forgot keys.
That’s another reason why you want to end it on good terms, or simply let it “die out” slowly.
So many girls said they will meet me!
This means absolutely nothing. Literally. There’s a world of a difference between saying she’ll meet you once you are in Thailand and ACTUALLY meeting up.
Think about this for yourself. If a good friend asks you to go on a hike with him a few months from now, it’s easy to say, “Sure! That sounds like fun.” Then when that time actually arrives, it’s a completely different story and you might not feel like doing the hike at all.
That’s why I don’t recommend chatting with girls months in advance & making plans … but only right before you arrive and are able to meet them rather soon.
Do you have any unanswered questions? Simply comment below & I’ll answer!